The Devotee
The one who reaches out first
You say "I love you" first and you say it often. After an argument you are usually the one who comes back within the hour, sits down and asks what went wrong, without raising your voice. You want a shared life with real plans: the holiday booked in March, the joint account, Sunday lunch with both families. You also end up doing most of the organising, and you rarely ask for anything back.
Superpowers
- First to repair: after a fight you come back calmly, usually the same day, and ask what the other person needed from you.
- Open affection: you text in the middle of the day, remember the small things they mentioned and say how you feel without being asked.
- Building together: you turn vague talk about the future into dates, a budget and a shared calendar you can both see.
Uncalibrated blind spot
Doing all the giving
You plan the weekends, remember the birthdays, book the dentist for both of you and check in when they seem off. Because you never ask for the same, the other person gets used to receiving, and you end up worn out and a little hurt without having said anything. Often they have no idea that almost everything is coming from you.