The Sentinel
Calm, private and self sufficient
You keep your own money, your own friends and at least a couple of evenings a week that belong to you. You notice when the other person's mood changes, but you usually wait for them to mention it. In a disagreement you stay calm, say little and come back the next day with a short, considered answer. You like plans loose, and a weekend with nothing booked suits you better than a full one.
Superpowers
- Low drama: you do not pick fights, sulk or slam doors, and a disagreement with you stays a conversation from start to finish.
- Room to breathe: you never ask for their passwords or a report on their night out, and you expect the same back.
- Good at noticing: you clock the change in tone, the skipped meal or the shorter texts, and you remember them later.
Uncalibrated blind spot
Working it all out alone
You notice a problem, think about it for weeks and reach a conclusion without saying a word. By the time you mention it, you have already decided how you feel, and the other person had no chance to take part. To them it looks as if you were fine and then suddenly were not.