The Wanderer
Independent, and quick to pull away
You need a lot of time on your own, and you take it without much warning: headphones on, phone face down, a walk nobody else was invited on. You keep your own money and your own friends, and you prefer plans made on the day. Most of the time you go along with what the other person wants. When you feel pushed, with questions like "Where is this going?" or "Why didn't you answer?", you snap, and then you go offline for the evening.
Superpowers
- No clinging: you will never sulk because they went out without you, and you never ask who they were texting.
- Up for the last minute plan: a free Saturday can turn into a road trip with an hour's notice, and you will happily drive.
- Full attention when you are there: when you choose to spend the evening together, your phone stays in your pocket.
Uncalibrated blind spot
Disappearing without a word
When you feel crowded or criticised, you react fast, often with a short, sharp reply, and then you go silent for hours or days. The other person cannot tell whether you are recharging or ending things, so they text more, which makes you pull back further. For them, the silence is harder to deal with than anything you said.